Making Courage Out Of Fear

Making Courage Out Of Fear

 


"Courage is resistance to fear.

Mastery of fear.

NOT absence of fear."

– Mark Twain


 


It’s a Monday morning. I’ve been up since 4 am feeling stuck. Sitting in one of the scariest emotions ever – FEAR. I’m scared of my own self-induced changes – and there’s been A LOT of them. I’m scared of having them all fail. And if you read my post, I wanna see you be brave, you’ll see I’m also afraid of them succeeding.



I’ve had a lot of time to think about fear. My relationship with it, its purpose in my life, and how to keep going with it instead of letting it hold me back. I’ve come to the conclusion that we don’t have any answers about overcoming it – or if we even should. But I do have some ideas about how we can sit in our fear, move forward with it, and allow fear to bring out our most courageous sides.


“All you have to do is have the courage to ask for help. The courage to want more for yourself. The courage to let go of the fact that this fear has control.”​


 


Listen to the podcast to find out more.



Featured in the podcast is Wim Hof – get some of him here.



Podcast production by Javy Espejo



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Celebrating Finding

Celebrating Finding

Finding little celebrations in every day stuff


This podcast started because the topic of purpose and personal branding had become a huge part of every day conversation. Over the last 10 weeks, we've been Finding things. 



As we wrap up the Finding series, Cheney and I chat about how the series got started, what we learned from it, and how we celebrate the little things every day. We even wrap up the whole thing with our very own happy dances!



What did you get out of the Finding series? 

Tell us in the comments below OR send me a note on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, or through the Sisarina Love Notes.


Finding Commitment

Finding Commitment

Stop Quitting. Start Committing. 


Have you ever heard a speech about someone who had something horrible happen to them and it changed their life? Cancer, a car accident, an injury, a fight, a sickness, a relationship ending, being arrested. They get up on stage and start with how it all changed for them. My goal in this life is to never have to give that speech because I was in control of my life being amazing and nothing had to happen to me to change it. One of my other goals is to make sure others are living their lives in a way that they won’t have to either.


Many people think about things they need to give up or quit or get rid of – those habits they want to be done with. But how many times do we say we're going to do it and then decide it's not really as big of a deal. So we keep doing that thing. We keep going back to it with guilt and the feeling that we really can't stop doing it because (insert excuse here). 


Most of the time, these are just stories. Stories we tell ourselves because we're human. And that's where those speeches come from. We never gave up that thing and something had to step in and change it all for us.


I recently wrote a very personal blog post called Because I Keep Saying I Will on one of my biggest "stories." The story that said I wasn't strong enough to find something different to cope with stress, anxiety, nightmares, and lack of sleep. Something that could help me stay focused because I just wasn't built that way. And you know what, it was just that – a story. 


Replacing my story with a commitment – NOT saying "I'm giving it up" or "I quit" – but saying, this is my new story and this is how I want my life to look. I have a much better chance of being true to myself and writing the next part without making up guilty lies.


COMMITMENTS: Even if you don't read the post, or listen to the podcast, here’s my commitment to myself:


  • Meditation as medication. I am committed to meditate when I feel it’s time to medicate myself. Even if that mean I have to meditate 15x a day to make it stop.
  • No booze in the house. I am committed to removing all alcohol from the premises and will not purchase another bottle of anything.
  • Playtime looks different. I am committed to finding new activities that will replace “meet me for a drink” activities.
  • Cravings become writing. I am committed to keeping a journal of how I’m feeling so I can find out what brings on the cravings. 


COMMUNITY: As much as people like to complain about others oversharing, posting too much, and being narcissistic, we humans need each other. We need to hear each other’s stories, we need to know that others struggle like we do. We need to be there to help each other through these things. I need you. You need me. We can do this together.


 



 


Do you have something you need to commit to? It doesn’t have to be the same as what I’m doing.


  • What do you keep saying you’ll do?
  • What do your friends keep asking you about?
  • What are you doing that doesn’t fit your personal brand?


Write it down. Find a replacement habit.

Commit to it. And take it one day at a time. We’ve got this. 

 


Let’s work together to make sure we don’t have to write a speech about the thing we couldn’t give up that almost killed us.


 


This series also comes with a video series.



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Finding Confidence

Finding Confidence

It's time to trust yourself.


Quite a few people have told me recently that when they first meet me they're a little intimidated by me. But after chatting, I find out that it's because they want to show up as confident as I do. They say they can tell I don't care what others think of me. 


Little secret: I do care what people think about me. Because I care about people.


But showing up with confidence is not meant to be intimidating. A conference attendee recently confided that when I got on stage in my little black dress & heels (yes, I dress up sometimes) to deliver a speech she immediately hated me because of how "perfect" I seemed. And by the end of the talk, she wanted to be my friend. Because of how I was real and unafraid to be imperfect in front of an audience of really smart people.


When I pressed her more about herself, I heard all of her insecurities, her hurts, and how much her past was affecting her future. But her past could be used as a motivator to get where she wants to go instead of a detractor holding her back.




When we show up with confidence, we show up trusting ourselves and knowing the world is here for us, not against us. What do you need to do to find the confidence you most totally deserve?



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Finding Alignment

Finding Alignment

Life changes. What’s your reset button?


What happens when you have a well-defined brand, but it’s not really YOU anymore? Sometimes the brand that you started out with  —  the one that got you out there and paid  — looked like success. But if it’s not you anymore, you can feel trapped inside your own brand. And what’s worse is that you’re attracting people but they’re not YOUR people.  


It’s hard to crawl back from misalignment. Life changes and so does your brand. Finding alignment means finding what floats your boat and then getting out there and doing that thing – whatever your thing is. If circumstances have changed, or you’ve evolved in other ways, finding alignment is all about your destiny in your own way.


It takes guts to live “on brand.” Struggling people (and businesses) in a brand crisis are in misalignment. And that can lead to mistrust. If this feels “too real,” stop the presses and boil everything down to what is really at the essence or the core of your brand. That’s the hard part. But it’s so worth it. When you know who you are, you can market the heck out it!



This series, Finding, is all about you. It’s about finding your light – from the inside out. It’s about finding yourself, your joy, your strength, your purpose, your direction, and your freedom.


This week is about Finding Alignment. Cheney and Rebecca talk about people who feel trapped in their own brand, how to identify misalignment and then get re-aligned. Listen in to find out how a little self awareness — and a lot of tweaking — can lead to really rocking your life.


This podcast episode even has video outtakes – because you’re welcome.



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Finding Dreams

Finding Dreams

Our biggest regrets will not

be the things we did.


Creating this podcast was not a dream of mine but I knew I had to do it. Getting it started was terrifying for me (and you know this if you listened to the first few) but if I wanted to accomplish everything I’ve been dreaming of, I had to do it. It was my little big step that will end up allowing me to get where I want to go.


When we get to the end of our lives, our biggest regrets will not be the things we did, but the things we didn’t do.


Inactions = huge regrets.


One of our core values at Sisarina is Dream Bigger. It’s not because your dreams are too small – it’s because you’re meant to have big dreams. Your purpose is to live a big life – whatever that “big life” is for you. What is the thing that you can accomplish today that will get you where you want to be someday?



This series, Finding, is all about you. It’s about finding your light – from the inside out. It’s about finding yourself, your joy, your strength, your purpose, your direction, and your freedom.


This week is about Finding Dreams. Based on a social media post I read about someone having their dreams stolen, I went off on a short rant talking about how you have to let go of the childhood dreams you have and start living the dreams you have now. Listen in to figure out how to take that next step.



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